In Response: On Fear and Waiting

From August 2016

As we prepare to welcome our second child into the world, I think back on the last year and a half of our life.

2015 brought us to a new city and state, through a second life-threatening ectopic pregnancy, a miscarriage and then a healthy pregnancy, not to mention many other new challenges that will go unmentioned for now.

Fear can seem a powerful force when looking at what we each face and what we each carry from the past, but fear cannot be the foundation on which we make decisions and live our lives. My questions have been,

“What if I go through loss again?”

“What if I can’t handle what comes my way?”

“What if I am not strong enough?”

“What if my body never fully heals from the trauma?”

Through being raw with the Lord (I’ve had a few yelling sessions) and honest about my fears and state of mind, I’ve realized that it is okay to admit when I am weak. If I continually bury the fears without facing my true state, they will always resurface and the pattern of fear will continue.

It’s a myth that constantly pushing away fear is a sign of courage. Courageous living is when fear is acknowledged, faced head on but then handed over to the one who can abolish it in His love. It’s the only way fear can be purged from our life. When I let Him do the final work, the burden doesn’t remain and there is rest in it. It comes down to this:

“Do I trust Him more than my fears and my weaknesses?”

As I’m waiting for our baby to arrive, I’m reminded of a prayer I prayed over my daughter soon after my last ectopic hospital stay. “May she have no fear because she knows who loves her.”

Published by AllisonGraber

Allison Graber is a Nashville writer and lover of Jesus. She is 14-years married to Lynn, a mix engineer with quiet ways and a loyal spirit. Her two little girls, Ellis and Adeleine, daily coax delight out of her heart. The paradigm through which she sees the world has been built brick-by-brick from her experiences with her Jesus, her love of people, through loss, curiosity, Holy words, and through the surprising joy of motherhood. She writes about these things at

One thought on “In Response: On Fear and Waiting

  1. I’m so sorry for your losses. I, too, have experienced recurrent miscarriage and fear in subsequent pregnancies because of them. 😥 And I’ve definitely had the yelling with the Lord at times (but oh, how guilty I am afterward!!) Mostly, I’m afraid that I won’t be able to handle things should they turn out differently than I’d like. And it’s this realization that makes me reliable on His Word that He will never leave me to do things on my own.
    Thanks for being so honest. Merry Christmas! XO

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